Practicing self-care while coping with a miscarriage

It does not matter how far along you were in your pregnancy; coping with a miscarriage can be difficult and traumatic. Our San Antonio OBGYNs encourage women to take time to heal physically and emotionally after a pregnancy loss. There is no rule book for how to handle the loss of a pregnancy. It is up to you how and when you grieve, but it is critical that you care for yourself through the process.

Common emotions after a pregnancy loss include depression, anxiety, anger and jealousy. These feelings are often heightened by the hormonal changes occurring in your body. Many women experience fatigue, loss of appetite, difficulty concentrating, sleep disturbance, and periods of crying.

These are normal and often part of the grieving process. However, if the feelings are extreme or include thoughts of self-harm, it is important to immediately seek medical attention.

After a pregnancy loss

What can you do to cope with miscarriage? Coping with a miscarriage is unique to each person, but our San Antonio OBGYNs offer these recommendations after a pregnancy loss.

• Understanding – It is important to talk with your OBGYN about the physical and emotional impacts a miscarriage can have on a woman. Although everyone’s experience is different, your doctor can help you understand the physical changes and the timeline for recovery.
• Support – Seeking out emotional support can be a great benefit. A counselor, pastor,  miscarriage support group, or friend can provide the listening ear you need. Consider options such as couples counseling with your partner, who is also grieving.
• Processing – If you’re not yet ready to talk, find an outlet for your emotions, such as writing or music.
• Patience – Do not rush the healing process. Take the time you need to get through each stage of grief. Keep in mind, everyone processes grief differently, so don’t expect your partner to be on the same timeframe as you.

Some women hope that becoming pregnant will heal the pain. If you decide to try to become pregnant again, wait until you are emotionally prepared for a new pregnancy.

• Peace – Preserve your peace by avoiding situations that might be difficult, such as spending time with pregnant women or around infants.
• Physical health – Getting good nutrition, staying hydrated, and getting enough sleep are among the best things you can do for yourself. When your doctor allows it, add walking or other light exercise.
• Acknowledgement – Acknowledge the loss in whatever way feels best to you. Some women benefit greatly by talking about their experience. Others journal or write a letter to their baby. For some people, a memorial service provides healing.
• Moving forward – As you move through the grieving process, it is okay to feel happy sometimes. It does not diminish the loss you’ve experienced.

Get support for coping with a miscarriage

Coping with a miscarriage is hard, and our San Antonio OBGYNs are available to support you through the physical and emotional impacts of pregnancy loss. Contact Legacy Women’s Health to make an appointment.